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ARE FRIENDS BETTER THAN A BROTHER ?
October 31, 2007, 2:54 pm
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This is quite an interesting debated subject. Let’s analyze this matter a little.

Well as far as I know people tend to be more sincere with good friends than brothers or sisters. They discuss more easily with friends about their problems than with a brother/sister . Should this be a normal thing ? Does this matter should affect the relationship between brothers and sisters ?

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I think it is caused by the age gap between brothers/sisters. We’re separated a few years with our brothers or sisters, and that’s enough to settle that we live in “different worlds”.

While with friends, who are usually at the same age as ours, we feel like in the “same world”, we face similar problems, we discuss similar things, etc.

And do you recognise that the closest siblings are usually twins?

Comment by Amed October 31, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

Yes I guess you’re right about twins. But there are also cases when if twins are raised separately I think things are a bit different especially because they don’t know each other better and because in the time that they were separate other mentality is developed for each of them.
But in most cases I agree with you that twins raised together are closest with eachother.

Comment by Dr X October 31, 2007 @ 4:48 pm

We go through sibling rivalry as kids, for the attention of our parents. There is a certain age in our life that we all go through that, and I think this is where this issue came from. Though we overcome sibling rivalry as we grow up(some don’t), remnants of it still lingers and that is why it is harder for us to be open to our brothers/sisters than it is to our friends/peers.
I mean, there is always something at the back of our mind telling us that our brothers/sisters might use something we reveal to them against us, and so we hold back, we draw the line, some even build walls.
Finding confidants is hard to do, family is the least person we consider as confidants. We find it most likely among friends. I find mine in papers, where I could be very honest writing my thoughts without somebody judging me. And that exactly is the problem. The moment we disclose something to the family – we are being judged instantly, we are expected to behave. But we are normal being, it is natural for us to commit mistakes. What is important is we rise from the situation and learn from it.

I know some twins with even worse sibling rivalries.

I wish you well.

~ Jeques

Comment by jeques October 31, 2007 @ 7:26 pm

It’s true that we go through sibling rivalry as kids for the attention of our parents.(in most of cases).
I also think that in the first place we should consider our family when we have a problem that would concern it.( exception when we are kids because then we can’t make all the time difference between right and wrong ) That is how things should work in a strong family because the family is the base of society .

Comment by Dr X November 1, 2007 @ 10:57 am

Ideally, yes. But that doesn’t always happen in the real world. I have a good family upbringing growing up in a close-knit family, but still, there are things I’d keep to myself and would rather reveal to friends. I don’t want to disappoint my parents. So they only know most of my accomplishments. My failures, I handle it myself. But this is only about me, I can only speak for myself.

I wish you well.

~ Jeques

Comment by jeques November 1, 2007 @ 12:38 pm


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